As we age, our bodies change in many ways and sex is no exception. You may assume that sex is less common or less pleasurable with age. The truth is, sex changes throughout the years and often it can change for the better! We’re going to take a look at how sex and sex drive changes through the different age groups.
While hormones are responsible for many of these changes, psychological and social factors are also responsible. This means that both men and women who embrace these changes and make the necessary adjustments can not only continue their sex lives, but actually improve it.
Sex in your 20s
Men have the highest testosterone levels while they’re in their 20s. Testosterone is an important hormone which controls sex drive, arousal and performance. Women are more fertile in their late teens and 20s. This could make women pickier with who to have sex with and when. Scientists think that, as fertility levels start to decline towards the end of the 20s, a woman’s libido starts to increase.
During this period, both men and women are often more self-conscious about their bodies and their performance. People in their 20s may have more energy, desire and even time for sex. But there is also a lot of anxiety due to inexperience. In fact, 8% of men in their 20s report erectile dysfunction.
Sex in your 30s
Men’s testosterone levels begin to drop in their 30s, and women’s progesterone levels also begin to fall. Many women are unaware that their progesterone levels start to decrease as young as 30. They may attribute fatigue and low libido to being a mom, working hard and generally being too tired. But there is an important hormonal shift taking place which can cause this. Men too are experiencing a slow decrease in testosterone levels and may be less interested in sex due to leading a busy life.
Nonetheless, the 30s can still be a time for a strong sex drive. In most people, the hormones haven’t yet dropped enough to influence sex drive in a strong way. Additionally, couples might have learned how to better communicate now that they’re a bit older and more familiar with each other. Better communication and understanding are crucial to attaining a satisfied sex life.
Sex in your 40s
They do say that life begins at 40. Is this also true for sex?
Women in their 40s might start experiencing irregular periods and other pre-menopausal symptoms. Estrogen levels are changing, and this causes vaginal dryness and thinning of the vaginal walls. Intercourse could become uncomfortable or painful. Men are also experiencing changes, including sex drive changes. They may have softer erections and a lower libido due to a drop in testosterone.
Nonetheless, this doesn’t have to prevent a full sex life. Simply changing your position during intercourse could be a solution. Purchasing a good lubricant is essential. And soft erections don’t prevent a man from reaching an orgasm either.
Experts say that during the 40s and 50s, a man’s timing matches the women’s timing better. During the 20s, a man can be very quick to orgasm while the woman is still only warming up. Yet from age 40, changes in a man’s blood flow and muscle tone means it takes him longer to climax. This means that men and women of this age are more synchronized. Studies have even shown that women in their 20s are least likely of all the age groups to reach an orgasm. Women in their 40s are the most likely, by a long way.
So maybe life really does begin at 40 after all!
Sex in your 50s
Empty nest syndrome might be something you’re dealing with in your 50s, but the good news is that it can do wonders for your sex life. Many couples in their 50s discover each other again. Now that there’s more time and head-space to focus on other things now that the kids aren’t around, it gives couples the opportunity to try out new things.
Many women are more interested in sex once there’s less worry about getting pregnant and now that the kids have left home. But heading towards menopause brings many physical factors that will make your sex drive difficult to maintain. Men too are really starting to experience the testosterone drop in their 50s. Luckily, both men and women can benefit from hormone replacement therapy. Many people experience a huge amount of success and report increases to their sex drive, performance and mood with treatment. How is that for sex drive changes? 🙂
Sex in your 60s and beyond
You might experience more physical ailments when you’re over 60 such as arthritis and other aches and pains. In addition, your hormones have plummeted. But with retirement comes a lot of free time. How better to fill your time than rekindling your sex life? Instead of focusing on your ailments, let sex take away the pain for you. You may not be able to have sex the way you used to. But this certainly doesn’t prevent you from using sex toys, massage or oral sex to awaken your libido.
Experimenting and communicating is key in achieving a satisfying sex life at any age. Don’t be afraid to try new things as your body evolves and your life changes. In addition to this, your doctor can really help. Your health practitioner may prescribe hormone replacement therapy or have another recommendation for you. It’s always a good idea to get your levels checked and keep your hormones monitored.
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So…..whatever age group you are in, enjoy it!! Make the most out of it! If you are not satisfied with certain things, do something about it! As they say, you only live once!